Attention all you stressed out moms! I would like to introduce you to a strategy that will bring you less stress, more joy, and help you perform at your best. Are you ready for this? Okay, keep reading.
Mindfulness. Have you ever heard of this concept?
According to the Webster’s Dictionary, mindfulness is the “state of being mindful.” Synonyms for the word mindful are aware and attentive. Mindfulness, then, is being in a state of awareness about our thoughts, emotions and experiences.
According to the folks at MindWell-U, the Canadian company that delivers evidence-based mindfulness training, “it boils down to a training in attention.” Dr. Soloway explains that instead of focusing on the past or worrying about the future, we focus on responding appropriately to what is happening now, in the present moment.
MindWell-U states that the benefits of mindfulness include experiencing less stress, more focus, more joy, and peak performance. Who wouldn’t want more of that?
Have you ever been in a rut? You know, where all you do is hang around your house and get very little done. I have and, let me tell you, it can be quite demotivating. It is a vicious cycle where lack of motivation leads to more lack of motivation which leads to sub par productivity. Sigh.
The mom rut can take one of several forms. For some it means lying on the couch watching television. For others, it means getting lost down the never ending rabbit whole that is social media. For others it means reacting to the day in your pajamas. I personally like to watch real crime shows on YouTube while staying in my pajamas all day, everyday. Not very glamorous, I know, but we all have those days.
Unfortunately, the mom rut is immune to good intentions. You need something else to get you going on the right track. So what can you do when you are having an off day and nothing is getting accomplished?
The first night alone at home with your new baby. There is much joy in this moment, but also some (or a lot of) anxiety and overwhelm. I felt so happy to be home in my own space away from all the nurses…but then again, I also liked having the nurses and doctors around because they knew what they were doing! As a new mom, I still felt unprepared. I was also convinced that the talk about the “maternal instinct” was a load of rubbish. Where was my maternal instinct and could it please get here soon!?
I am now seven and a half months past the newborn baby stage, but looking back what I remember most is how unprepared I felt in my role as a mom. I was worried I was doing the wrong thing; I was constantly guessing at what my baby needed. I was riddled with self-doubt. I was unsure how I was going to do this. I wondered if I had it in me to be a decent mom. In this post I share the story of my first night at home with my new baby and some lessons learned along the way. Read More…