Every new mom needs a self-care strategy.
As a new mom, you are busy taking care of the needs of your baby. You are trying to be the best mom you can while learning as you go. You are doing intense on-the-job training!
Being a mom is a very demanding role. You are also probably wondering why in the world no one -I repeat no one– told you just how hard motherhood was going to be.
Amidst all the care your new baby requires, how on earth are you supposed to take any time for yourself? If you live far from family and your spouse works, it may seem even more impossible to tend to your needs.
Dearest New Mama, I have been where you are. Gosh it is so darn hard. The lack of sleep is what gets you. But, I also want you to know that it will get easier. You will start to find a balance between your needs and your baby’s needs. It is slow, but it can be done. You need to be intentional about incorporating self-care into your day. We will talk about how in this article.
Why is self-care important?
Even when you are in the trenches of being a mom to an infant, it is important to fill up your tank. What I mean is, you need to make time for yourself– to take care of your own needs.
If you don’t do this, you will start resenting your role as a mom. You will also become unhappy and unfulfilled in your new role. And when you’re not feeling your best, it’s hard to enjoy this little blessing that has entered your life.
We need you in tip-top shape Mama, so that you are healthy and can be the best parent possible to your precious little bean.
An essential self-care strategy for the new mom
Do ONE thing for yourself each day. You may be thinking, “That’s it? That’s your fantastic strategy for me?” My answer: yup.
The strategy is simple, but very powerful. And Dear New Mama, what you need right now is simple, because even that will feel like work when you are running on very little sleep.
Self-care is essential for your own mental health. And, by extension, for the health of your baby. You see, when you are happy and coping well, so is your baby.
I started using this self-care strategy to help me feel good about myself each day.
What self-care tasks should I start with?
A self-care task is any task that is done to meet your needs. This activity can be the smallest task. I want you to focus on those basic tasks that we often take for granted.
For example, a nice hot shower, lying down, listening to music, plucking your eyebrows, to name a few. I find it’s good to start with the basics especially in those early weeks of new motherhood.
Pick an activity that can be done in 15 minutes or less. The investment of time doesn’t need to be huge, but the payoff will be.
Before I had my baby, I never realized how much these small self-care tasks helped me feel better about myself. Even just shaving my legs once I had my baby felt like such an accomplishment. I always felt so much better. It was the same with plucking my eyebrows, clipping my nails, washing my face in the morning, or lathering up with a delicious smelling lotion. Even getting fully dressed did wonders for my self-esteem.
Doing something for yourself will help you feel human again. Even the smallest act of self-care will remind you that you are person who has needs that deserve to be met.
Putting it into action
I want you to go and try the strategy. Do ONE self-care task for yourself each day. It’s very simple for a reason – I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed!
- Pick ONE basic self-care task and perform it.
- Reflect on how you feel afterwards.
- Decide on tomorrow’s self care task
By incorporating a self-care activity into your day, you will notice your mood improve. You send a powerful message to yourself that your needs matter. When your needs are met, you can fully enjoy your new role as a mom.
Need some more ideas for self-care tasks to try? Check out this post.